Currently, 1 in 5 teens face mental health problems. As that percentage increases, it’s important to establish how to approach your parents with these problems. Confronting your parents about your mental health can be really tough and quite uncomfortable, but it will prove to be beneficial for both you and your parents.
Common concerns teens face for not talking to their parents, and how they can overcome these challenges:
“I don’t know how my parents will react”
Planning a discussion with your parents is crucial, before meeting be prepared about what you’re going to say. To avoid shocking your parent’s it’s best to meet with them individually and at a time in which they both are comfortable.
“My parents will be mad at me” or “My parents will be upset”
Parents may not know how to react from the serious news, but most times their reactions only come from the simplicity that they care about you. Telling your parents that you are struggling and want to improve your health from extra support, helps them better understand how to deal with the situation.
“My parents will worry too much”
You are your parent’s responsibility, everyone faces stress, talking, and getting help will make them worry less. Your wellbeing and mental health are your parent’s top priority, no amount of work stress can come after your health.
“How can I talk to my parents, they are the reason I am suffering”
Sadly one or both parents may contribute to your mental health. In this situation, if one parent is making you struggle, then it is important to reach out to the other parent. However, if both parents cannot provide adequate support, it is important to know that there are more resources. You can always reach out to another trusted adult, family member, or friend. Seeking counsel in others is what truly matters.
How to talk to your parents about mental illness?
Before talking with anyone it is imperative that you understand that there is nothing wrong with asking for help.
“Regardless of what challenge you are facing right now, know that it has not come to stay. It has come to pass. During these times, do what you can with what you have, and ask for help if needed. Most importantly, never surrender. Put things in perspective. Take care of yourself. Find ways to replenish your energy, strengthen your faith, and fortify yourself from the inside out.”
Bring it up at the right time
There is no rush in telling people what you are going through in your own time when you are comfortable and your parents are comfortable open up. It is easier to talk when everyone is relaxed and comfortable.
Express your feelings
It’s easier for parents to understand what you are going through when you are open about your emotions. They tend to show more sympathy when told about how you feel.
Say you want help
Parents realize with your desire for help, how much you may be affected. Most times parents will not neglect your call for help and get you the appropriate care you need even if they will try their hardest to help you themselves depending on their situation.
Try again and don’t wait
If in a situation your parents don’t give you the care you need, don’t be afraid to reach out to another adult. Your mental health is not worth giving up on. The more you bottle up your feelings and emotions, the worse your condition may get.
Stats
In 2016, only 50.6% of teens from ages 16-17 received treatment for their mental health disorder.
50% of lifetime mental illnesses begin at age 14
Suicide is the third leading cause of death from ages 15 to 24
1 in 5 teens face mental health problems
On average it takes about 8-10 for a teen suffering symptoms of a mental illness to receive help.
About 20% of students report being bullied in the United States
Talking to your parents is not a bad thing, and remember there are unlimited resources online that you can use. School counselors and friends are always there to have an open discussion. Talking can go a long way. Here are some great organizations that provide excellent support:
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)
With hundreds of volunteers and affiliates, this organization helps find support groups and offers free education.
U.S. Department of Health & Human Services — Mental Health in Adolescents
Provides information about adolescent mental health and access to care
This foundation is committed to the mental health of college students and the prevention of suicide among this population. They provide free resources and self-assessment for students.
Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance
This alliance contains numerous resources form podcasts, research, to support groups, their primary focus is on depression and bipolar disorder as they strive to help members create a path to wellness.
This site provides useful information on child abuse and neglect, when you should report, how to report, and what happens after you report it.
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